I had a question I’ve been thinking about for a bit. I am an introvert and have a bit of trouble expressing my feelings to others. Many people, including family and friends, are unable to gauge how I’m doing because I don’t share much information. I just feel a bit awkward when there is a situation that I have to express my feelings. Sometimes, it’s frustrating even for me because of this. I have friends and can socialize with others, so it doesn’t really affect me on a day-to-day basis, but sometimes it is frustrating even for me. Do you think there may be something wrong, or is this just due to my personality?
Trouble expressing my feelings to others
Simon Downes, MD, PhD 
Hello. Thank you for your question. I am glad you asked me because the first step towards understanding your concerns is to ask someone like me who has experience in this area.
The first thing I would like to say is that I think it is a good thing to think about, and try to solve the issues that bother you. You will find that through speaking to experts, you will develop a fair sense of yourself, without self blame or anxiety.
Certainly, the journey towards understanding ourselves is worthwhile, and there are many rewards along the way.
I would like to address your questions and concerns.
I can see that this is bothering you, and you consider it to be an issue you would like to deal with.
In general, the will or confidence to participate in social gatherings is learned. This is not to say that an introverted person should seek to become more social, but it is good to know that people with similar concerns have gained confidence by gradually becoming more and more involved in situations that require social interaction.
From an emotional standpoint, it is natural to feel anxiety in social situations. Sometimes one’s inner voice may tell you that what you have to say is not important, or that people may not have an interest in what you have to say.
However, you may be interested to learn that often, the image one has of him/herself is quite different than the image others have of that person.
Having this knowledge may be a good starting point to help you realize that the image others have of you may be favorable.
Thank you for sharing this. If you would like to move towards being able to express your feelings better, the first step is to accept that it is not a strong area for you.
I would like to work with you in further communications about this. In particular, I would like to know what it is that makes you feel awkward.
There is certainly something that is blocking your confidence, or will to share your self in social situations.
However, it is not a question of whether there is something wrong with you or not – as this really does not help you move towards a solution.
It more advantageous to help you realize the path you wish to follow, and for me to help you get there.
From what you have told me, I am sure I can work with you to develop less anxiety in social situations, and to share more of yourself with family or friends
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