Client says had mental brekdown due to relationship concerns

Example Client:
I had a negative thought over my girlfriend which caused me to have a mental breakdown. I was sick and I couldn’t eat or sleep right. I have suffered now for 7 months with anxiety and depression and now its affecting my relationship. Because of the anxiety, I am constantly on edge and I fear a break up. Even though we will never break up, I am constantly asking questions like, “do I love her?” When I think of these things I get scared due to anxiety. I cannot tell myself that I love her and its all in my head as my mind has complete control. I am very desperate for some professional advice and any advice or help will be greatly appreciated!

Answer:
Hello and thank you for your question about your anxiety and thoughts toward your girlfriend. 

I am concerned that you have had these physical symptoms for seven months, and that you have had continuing anxiety and depression. 

In your description you mention negative thoughts towards your girlfriend and how you question your love for her. 

You are 19. Your life is before you with limitless potential. If the past seven months are an indication of what you can expect for the rest of your life, can you accept this? Is this the kind of relationship you have hoped for ?

Inside, every man has a list of what he hopes for in his partner. Although there may be a need to make certain compromises, in general, happily married people have found who they want to spend the rest of their lives  with. 

The simple test is this: Does this person improve my life? Am I a much happier person with them than I am without them? If the answer is yes, then you are with who you should be with. 

If there is doubt, and anxiety and depression as a result of thinking about this person, you may want to reconsider whether you are with the right person. 

Sometimes even when two people love each other, the combination can be toxic for one or both members. This will result in mental stress, and even physical illness. 

Dating someone is like going shopping for clothes. You try them on, and see if they fit. Sometimes it takes a while to get used to someone, but sometimes, that person will never fit, no mater how hard you try to wear them. 

You can find the answer to your questions by looking in the mirror and talking to yourself. However, if your mind cannot understand, I suggest you to speak with a psychologist or therapist. They are trained to help you understand your own feelings and tro find answers to your questions.  

I think the answer to your question about whether you love your girlfriend or not is, ‘Yes’. You do love her, but a bigger question is whether being with her results in your happiness. Only you can know the answer to this. Trust yourself. Trust your feelings. 

One final thought is that you have a physical examination to check for any abnormalities with your body chemistry. Then, you will have all the information you need to make a decision. 

Good luck to you.